Love is patient, love is kind…it does not envy, it does not boast…it does not leave behind bric-a-brac for us to have to find a home for because we feel guilty throwing it out… it does not clutter our curios, nor add to our dusting duties. It does not require us to waste air conditioning to keep it from melting, nor expose us to a collection of deformed candle bears and babies*, because we didn’t. Love knows we have enough of our own!
Budget store trinket* or luxurious cut crystal*, wedding favors have long been the cause of nail-biting for both host and guest alike. (A miniature rocking horse* ??!!)
Our ancestors in Europe have been imposing trinkets upon their guests for centuries. See:
A bonbonniere was actually a box made of porcelain*, crystal*, precious stones or metal. Inside one would find delicacies made of sugar. It was from these boxed and gift wrapped confections that today’s wedding favors are derived.
Maybe the problem is that it’s impossible to equate the thanks a host feels for their guest, with a material object. Well, thankfully there’s hope, for all of us, both host and guest alike. We can live in harmony with our gifts of thanks, with our planet, and with each other. Just look at these amazing transformations:
Less than $1 ea:
You get: A cube of Chinese food container waste packed with jawbreaking goodness*. Cost: $0.44 ea
Will your guests save it/toss it? Either way it’s a bad scene.
Voila! Feed the birds, tuppence a bag…
Made by Juile ~Etsy.com/shop/2birdsinlovefrom ~Click here to get them, or add to your Wishpot
You get: Joyful time with colorful, curious visitors…maybe even a new-found hobby!
Cost: $0.95 ea
User friendly, earth friendly, bird friendly.
Will they use it/give it away? Either way, you’ll be making some birdies mighty happy.
Less than $5 ea:
Not sure if I need to change the names on this to protect the innocent -but somewhere, someone is developing a case of carpal-Dustal syndrome on account of this fellow.
You Get: Crystal!! Cut!! Oooh..sparkly!! Don’t get me wrong, there are some good people who take pleasure in collecting these. You should give one, to them.
Cost: $3.25 ea
To dust or give it to another to dust, that is the question.
To shade & sap…
Love transcends all, grows, protects, and endures. Yea it does.
Made by Joanne, ~GiveTreeGifts.com
~Click here to get them, or to add to your Wishpot
You get: A tree seedling to plant, to create life that will become a home for more life, and one day, shade your picnic.
Cost: $3.70 ea
(These are the favors of choice for my sister’s wedding this June. )
But you REALLY want your guests to keep a memento:
From show & tell…
Be not swayed by the adorable baby carriages*. Many years from now, your guests will still be dusting “aby”.
You get: Cuteness factor, evil looks from your friends and family when you say “Oh wow, you’ve kept it all these years..”
Cost: $25 ea (that can’t be right, can it?)
Will your guests accumulate decades of resentment/ store tiny baby favors they’ve received over the years in it? It’s a vicious cycle.
To sight & smell…
Plant the paper, keep the photo!
Made by Anna ~etsy.com/shop/GreetingsthatGrow
You get: Two gifts in one really, a stunning photo to admire while you watch your wildflowers grow.
Cost: $4.o0 ea -AND you get 50 GreenBeans back!
A feast for the eyes & noses of your guests!
So there you have it: Eco-friendly wedding favors that your guests will cherish. Ahh, doesn’t that feel better?
*= actual favors I have received over the years
I’m off to dust my tchotchkes (chachkas) now, and mumble obscenities under my breath. Think I’ll snap a few pics and post them up. If you have some too, go ahead and post them- maybe we can have a “worst favors ever” photo contest. What do you think?